I know, I used what appears to be a curse word. It is for “shock” value. It is highly relevant when discussing this topic. Girls need to learn to kick ass!!
Just look through the local paper, listen to the local news and let yourself grasp the level of danger our daughters are experiencing everyday. It is nice to believe it will never happen to them, it is nice to void those news stories out because they are too chilling. This method of coping does not help your daughter.
Girls should not have to fear an early evening solo jog in their neighborhood. Girls should not have to fear the staggering sexual assault statistics coming from colleges and universities across the nation. Girls should not have to fear the unbelievable sexual assault cases occurring in the armed services. But the reality is they do need to fear this and they do need to do their best to be prepared both physically and mentally. They need to be ready to kick some ass.
Let me say, it is a shame that so many males engage in this type of behavior. I believe a systematic approach in early education is needed to re-edcuate and educate young men on how to behave with respect to other people especially women. Until that happen we need to do our best to prepare daughters that are ready to handle these type of boys / men Many of these sexual assaults may be thwarted if the the girl is no longer timid in the situation, no longer lacking confidence to stand up for themselves in a scary situation. If the girl can stop the coward in his tracks and gain the advantage. The only “sport” or “after school activity” can promote this mindset while simultaneously teaching the physical skills to back up this confidence is the the Martial Arts. However, it is important to find a school that advocates self defense over the sport / business end of the martial arts. Enrolling your daughter in a belt factory school that just keeps pumping them up with promotions and fancy gymnastic type technigues is NOT the way to learn those potential assault stopping skills. Parent needs to do their homework and watch the classes and determine if the older girls in the class appear able to defend to themselves. the sad truth is many cannot because their martial school never emphasized any contact, or real world self defense skills. The attitude of being a warrior and being able to defend yourself is lacking.
I truly hope more martial art, karate and jujitsu schools come to around to join the movement of real world applicable self defense and make sure the students know when they are learning a technique that will never really work under pressure and when they are learning a technique that will truly allow them to kick some ass.
Andrew Sora – Sensei